For many of us, drinking booze has been a way to avoid feeling the intensity of the wounds, traumas, scars, hurts, and pain we endured throughout our lives. When we are triggered by the stress of the day, something someone may have said or done, perhaps the feeling of overwhelm, we drink alcohol so we can numb out. The Booze Bitch takes us on the ride to euphoria for a blessed few minutes. We get to escape into buzzed bliss for awhile, not feeling any pain whatsoever. We are lured into nirvana where nothing is wrong, not a thing has to be done right now, all can wait until tomorrow (which of course never comes). This becomes a habit, then an addiction. It is so much easier to numb, avoid, escape, not face reality, not delve into healing work, rather than allow ourselves to just BE with the intensity of the pain we feel from how we were abused, traumatized, mistreated, not loved, felt a million different levels of sadness or grief. Addiction to any substance is most often a way to avoid feeling pain on varying levels. Booze and other drugs are a form of self medication, numbing out, masking the wound.
Once we start on the sober journey, we no longer choose to turn to The Booze Bitch to soothe us. We give up that security blanket because we know that in reality, there is NO security in the blanket that buries us, the weight of illusion that keeps us from healing and living our best lives. We admit, we learn through our own experience, that booze creates extremes of anxiety, depression, other mental illnesses and a vast array of physical illnesses as well. Once we choose US and the desire to be our best selves, we embark on the path to healing. The healing odyssey is a pretty wild ride, more for some than for others; certainly there is never a dull moment. I am very fortunate to have spent many years involved in healing work before I chose sobriety. I have had a daily meditation practice for a decade, likely the most vital step to healing. I have committed my time volunteering with two wonderful organizations that focus on deep healing work for women and end-of-life, participating as a staff member in this extraordinary healing work. I chose over these past many years to open my wounds with extreme vulnerability and rawness because I wanted to heal, I wanted to help others, and I wanted to learn everything I could about myself. I desired growth, contribution, wanted to experience my very best self. It is a long and never ending passageway to the healing waters, one about which I am immensely grateful.
For me, sobriety was the great big missing link to the completion of my healing. For most, sobriety is the first big step, the gateway. Sobriety is the beginning of looking at every part of ourselves, tenderly, lovingly, learning to accept all the various pieces, every bit of who we are, nurturing and cherishing each of them. Many find therapy helpful to advance in their healing. I certainly have had some great therapists who assisted me in my own healing journey, helping me move through emotions that had me stuck. I highly recommend therapy. Even more than therapy however, I recommend a daily dose of peace, silence, stillness, and serenity before anything else happens in the morning. Meditation is a beautiful way to connect with our own inner wisdom, our light, our spirit, guidance from within, bliss from our own nature. There are numerous books written about self improvement, self development, all facets of healing, and each can be helpful. On my sober journey, “Quit Lit” (books written about the journey into sobriety by people who share themselves on a most vulnerable level, including their real life experiences) has been deeply inspiring and motivational, opening up a beautiful new world of hope, encouragement, and possibilities. Reading and learning how others have made it through to the other side of trauma, wounds, pain, and worse, creates confidence, hope, inspiration, trust, compassion, connection, and more healing.
Physical and biochemical healing is also an integral part of this sober adventure ride. There are several levels of healing that have to take place in order to be fully successful in sobriety. Thorough healing must cover all aspects of what makes us human, including our Spiritual, Social, Psychological, and Biochemical selves. This could be an entire book, so suffice it to say, check out the vast number of resources available on the Internet. You will be rewarded if you do some research into healing on all these levels- there are wonderful works out in the Sober Sphere with a wealth of helpful information. I personally started taking several nutritional supplements to help my brain and body recover when I felt so miserable the first forty days, and they were extremely beneficial. I highly recommend Chris Scott and “Fit Sobriety”, it is likely the one I most relate to as an athlete who was feeling extreme lethargy, depression, and anxiety from the after effects of booze. Check him out here https://fit-recovery.com.
Whatever you decide, be kind to yourself. You are on a journey, and you are not alone. There is an entire world of newborn sober babies, a rapidly expanding movement of sobriety on the planet. We are all giving birth to our best lives, slowly but surely. You will find love, support, encouragement, accountability, laughter, shared experiences and belonging, compassion, and friendship on the deepest levels in this beautiful world. Don’t wait another day to take the plunge. You can start now to become all you are capable of becoming, the waves are calling. Let’s go sober surfing! Come enjoy the wild, wonderful ride of sobriety with all its vitality, happiness, clarity, and healing. Everything is brighter, bigger, and more amazing here.